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Samantha St Julian's avatar

Ginni! How could you possibly marry someone with a diagnosis of Noassatall? (Just kidding! I know you got a gemstone with Bob!)

So, what helps me when I'm waiting for surgical news:

-Go outside - get out of the energy of the hospital and stand on the earth with no shoes. Reground. come home to ME. Get out of the fear taking over the waiting room -present and past.

-Get a latte. One of my favorite things that always shifts my mood.

-Take a favorite book and read it. Puts me a different reality.

-Expect the nursing staff to be a bit incompetent in their communication. Encourages me to be proactive in getting my information needs met.

-Trust the process. Something bigger than me is in charge, thank Goodness...or not!

-Talk with ONE other person who is on the inside of the experience. Just one. A trusted one who won't go doom and gloom on me.

Sending you Love and Light, Ginni. I know this is BIG for you and Bob. If I can help let me know how. xoxo samantha

Jessica's avatar

See you on the other side. Remember life is a 4 sided box. You are either going to the top and what you believe exists there, the bottom which , I personally don’t want to be visiting, or back or forward. I’m seeing you on the forward side. 💕

Maryanne Boyen's avatar

Love you, Ginni! Thinking of both of you. Sending e-hugs!!!!!!!!!

Dinah's avatar

Love to you!

Leslie Locken's avatar

My husband has used this time to run errands, do last minute grocery shopping, everything but sit and wait. I have found when I was the one waiting, having a friend with me helped, or use the time to catch up on the phone with friends. The sitting and waiting feels like eternity unless you find a way to break it up.

Leslie Schwartz's avatar

Bob,

Breathe

Walk around

Read a book

Drink water

Eat

Think positive thoughts

Remember how much we love you

Blesdings,

Leslie

Keep us updated!!

christopher cressey's avatar

Barbara's suggestions are good ones. I, also have not waited alone in a waiting room. Many times, there were enough of us to have a party, we smuggled tequila in a small cooler, passed around in awful plastic cups and ate snacks..I doubt if that will be a good distraction for Bob..so maybe a friend to talk to, or a book ..he can read the same paragraph repeatedly once he realizes that he can't remember what he just read, that focusing is a bitch when you are concerned and just want good news.

Barbara's avatar

I was never alone in the waiting room since nothing was considered emergency surgery. My husband Gary and I were together sobbing when our 2 year old daughter was taken from my arms and walked to the OR.

A friend insisted that she sit with me during the 5 hours that Gary underwent cancer surgery. Maybe Bob can have someone at his side tomorrow.

Sending love, hugs and healing. ✨💖✨

Patricia Babina's avatar

Ginni, I have been thinking of you these last few days. I am “late to the party” with a suggestion for waiting during a loved one’s surgery… but when I was alone in the waiting room for my husband’s stent procedure and cancer operations I found that moving every so often was the best stress reliever. Just a ten minute walk, every so often, can divert the monkey brain. Now, I am hoping for your complete recovery and a successful outcome after surgery.